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Three Secrets for Increasing Your Happiness by 20%
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by: Lisa Earle McLeod
How many moments of your life are happy? If youâ€™re like most people your life is a mix of up and downs. Happy moments, interspersed with lots of boring moments, and probably a few periods of absolute misery.
Itâ€™s unrealistic to expect that you can create a life that is 100% happy moments. Chasing a problem-free life actually makes you unhappy because every bump in the road is viewed as evidence of failure. A better goal is to increase your happiness by 20%. Here are three ways to do it:
1. Be honestly grateful
One thing youâ€™ll notice about unhappy people is theyâ€™re always pointing to advantages that others received. Yet they rarely reflect on the advantages theyâ€™ve received. For example, the successful businessperson who constantly complains about the slackers, with little gratitude that they have the skills to be a top performer.
If you want to be happier, be grateful for what youâ€™ve been given. That means acknowledging the fact that you may have been born with more advantages than most. In my own case, I was born to healthy college-educated parents, in America, who sent me to great public schools and expected me to get an education and do something with my life. On the scale of global humanity, I won the lotto. I could complain about my familyâ€™s dysfunctions, and trust me, theyâ€™re real. Or I can be grateful that I was born in a time and place where I can buy books, eat healthy food, and create an amazing life for myself.
As my friend author Mike Robbins says, â€śGratitude and victimhood canâ€™t coexist.â€ť
2. Own your ambition
Our society has an odd relationship with ambition. Youâ€™re supposed to have some, but not too much. One way to increase your happiness is frank self-honesty about your personal goals. What level of achievement do you truly desire? Not what you think you should want, or how much money youâ€™d like to have, but what is or is not burning inside of you?
Itâ€™s OK to admit that youâ€™re happier at mid-level. I have a friend who says itâ€™s taken him forty years to admit heâ€™s not ambitious. Not everyone wants to conquer the world.
But if you are hyper-ambitious give yourself permission to give voice to your desires. If you have that burning energy inside you, you know exactly what Iâ€™m talking about. When I decided Iâ€™m no longer going to apologize for my own fierce ambition, I quit framing my language around imaginings. I created concrete plans. It made me happier and brought me closer to my goals.
The secret to happiness is to be simultaneously grateful for where you are, while also striving for where you want to be.
3. Stay present
Unhappy people are always wishing for something else. They play the â€śif onlyâ€ť game: If only I had a better house or a different boss. If only I were married or single, then I would be happy.
Years of the â€śif onlyâ€ť game amounts to wishing your life away. Happiness is found in the present moment.
Itâ€™s your one and only life; youâ€™re not going to get another one.
Show up for it every day with gratitude. Be honest about who you are, and stay present for the moment youâ€™re in. Your life wonâ€™t be perfect, but itâ€™s totally within your power to make it 20% happier.
Lisa Earle McLeod is a sales leadership consultant. Companies like Apple, Kimberly-Clark and Pfizer hire her to help them create passionate, purpose-driven sales forces. She the author of several books including Selling with Noble Purpose: How to Drive Revenue and Do Work That Makes You Proud, a Wiley publication, released Nov. 15, 2012. She has appeared on The Today Show, and has been featured in Forbes, Fortune and The Wall Street Journal. She provides executive coaching sessions, strategy workshops, and keynote speeches.
More info: www.mcleodandmore.com
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Contributor: Lisa Earle McLeod
Published here on: 28-Feb-16
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